Thursday, February 09, 2006

On Marriage

Sorry I haven't been posting. Work has been crazy. I shall post something on marriage. Because I've recently had interesting discussions on the topic, and have also recently listened to interesting speeches delivered by women about why men need good wives. Once again, I will get into trouble, but why is it that most women I've met are more often not like Elizabeth Bennet than they are? Or even a Jane Bennet. I'd settle for a Jane. ;) But this post will be more like a quote. I shall let the passage speak for itself, and state that I cannot imagine marrying, if I can't meet an Elizabeth. Besides the impossibility of finding someone who's life goals, values, and life motivations align to my own, I care not to live the life of Mr. Bennet.

From Pride and Prejudice:
Had Elizabeth's opinion been all drawn from her own family, she could not have formed a very pleasing picture of conjugal felicity or domestic comfort. Her father captivated by youth and beauty, and that appearance of good humour, which youth and beauty generally give, had married a woman whose weak understanding and illiberal mind, had very early in their marriage put an end to all real affection for her. Respect, esteem, and confidence, had vanished for ever; and all his views of domestic happiness were overthrown. But Mr. Bennet was not of a disposition to seek comfort for the disappointment which his own imprudence had brought on, in any of those pleasures which too often console the unfortunate for their folly or their vice. He was fond of the country and of books; and from these tastes had arisen his principal enjoyments. To his wife he was very little otherwise indebted, than as her ignorance and folly had contributed to his amusement. This is not the sort of happiness which a man would in general wish to owe to his wife; but where other powers of entertainment are wanting, the true philosopher will derive benefit from such as are given.

Elizabeth, however, had never been blind to the impropriety of her father's behaviour as a husband. She had always seen it with pain; but respecting his abilities, and grateful for his affectionate treatment of herself, she endeavoured to forget what she could not overlook, and to banish from her thoughts that continual breach of conjugal obligation and decorum which, in exposing his wife to the contempt of her own children, was so highly reprehensible. But she had never felt so strongly as now, the disadvantages which must attend the children of so unsuitable a marriage, nor ever been so fully aware of the evils arising from so ill-judged a direction of talents; talents which rightly used, might at least have preserved the respectability of his daughters, even if incapable of enlarging the mind of his wife.
Yeah, because I can so see myself thinking like Mr. Bennet in most marriage scenarios. And that's an extremely impudent statement, I know. So sue me. Or find me an Elizabeth. Maybe a Jane. But preferably an Elizabeth. Of course, would the Mr. Bennet still appear in me if there was an Elizabeth? Interesting question.

By the way, did you know that Wired released their 2005 Vaporware Awards? Guess what made #1. I swore the thing was cancelled by now....

And I discovered why I keep getting weird calls at work. It's because my phone number is only one digit off of the phone number for the company switchboard. And not only is it one digit off, it's the last digit that's off. I just got a phone call today about some customer wanting to have their bill changed. But that still doesn't explain why people would call my cell phone....

1 comment:

  1. Starcraft Ghost should have come out like 3 years ago =\

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